matthewnguyen

Love and Infatuation: What's the difference?

If i was a good speech writer, id start off by having the definitions of love and infatuation right here. But im shit at making speeches so i cant give out a definition. And my dictionary is too far away. And i dont want to enter the dictionary app =( Its an issue id like to address so here it is. And i cbf yet with the challenge thing. Sorry kwo, next time when i have a topic to fit in with my linkin park lyrics.

Is there a difference between love and infatuation? And dont be a fucktard and say or think that they're different because of the spelling T_T I dont think love exists. Wait, i need to use high modality. Love doesnt fucking exist. Its all levels of infatuation. Who are we to define what love is? The feeling of your heart jumping when you see that person? Going from tired from whatever it is you're doing and despite that, being happy to see your partner? Same can go for infatuation. My deduction goes that love is just a very high level of infatuation, and is therefore infatuation, not love. Ive beeb infatuated before, mildly and strongly. Everyone has their 'first crush' and 'first bf/gf' but whenever they say the words "i love you", is it really love? Someone who you've dated for less than a year, give or take sometimes even way less goes and says those words, what is it that you feel? Acceptance which leads to happiness. Love is merely the act of accepting someone, their feelings, their looks, their flaws and good qualities. Love or those words is the ultimate form of acceptance. Nothing more. Though im not a master of love and such thats my opinion. A small story. I love, no, im infatuated with telling small stories or examples ;D There was a guy i knew in year 3 who moved into primary school and yet so suddenly, he was popular because he was intellectual. He won an award every presentation day, either as top of his class, or ranked second. He also had about 5 or 6 girls in the hand of his palm. They were infatuated with him was my opinion. There was no love, they were merely attracted to either his looks or his intellect. The latter was my opinion. Although he was quite naive too, or just modest. He never showed of his skills or bragged about it, merely went with the flow. He could ask out any of the girls and their answer would be a yes because of their INFATUATION with him. He never asked Ny of them about, he couldve been provided with the perfect opportunity of dating, but i guess he never had the courage to do so. And this person was no other than me :D I dont regret much now since i doubt i couldve handled a relationship with my extreme lack of confidence back then. Now that ive reached highschool, everythings changed which made it hard for most of us. I no longer had 6 girls, they were merely two and they both drifted away. The girl i had my attention on went to the same highschool and after a while, i had enough courage to ask her out and be turned down. A few years wasted eh? And now look at me, im pretty much a loner. Ive got no girls that like me and im so hopeless. Yay me. But the only relationship i had died down quickly. She was attracted to me after being turned down twice by my friends which i didnt find out until later on. I felt slack when she constantly talked to me and confessed. I really dont like hurting people so i answered her feelings falsely. Damn i am a fucking fuckface. My feelings grew for her a little then died out completely after. She constantly told me the phrase "i love you" but everytime she said it, the meaning died. She expected me to reply in the same format too but i truly didnt feel like i deserved her or if we were right for each other. So my response would be "you too" refusing to type the words 'i love you' down. I consider that relationship a strong case of infatuation and that if love really did exist, a person such as myself wouldnt experience it anyway.

*Sigh